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Dating in our modern age can be nerve-wracking. We set out with high hopes, but can often find ourselves wasting precious time with dead-end dudes. We all know to stay away from the kind of men our mom warned us about: the frat boy, the player, and the manchild.

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in. The ones that are arrogant. The ones that are experts in gas-lighting.

Looking for love these days can be a daunting task, and it’s tempting to jump into any relationship that presents itself. but do yourself a favor and stay away from these 10 types of guys.

The ones that lie, cheat, and lie again. The ones that withhold affection in order to gain power.

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How could I know that I have the tendency to do exactly this and yet continue to dive head first and knee deep into the highs that come with catching the one who saves his affections only for the women ready to believe him? These men all share qualities that are not innately bad- in fact what makes these men appealing are the good qualities they all share: confident, outspoken, self-assured, aware.

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But in no time, he reveals that that confidence was truly arrogance and a lack of concern for others. The outspokenness a mask for unapologetic tactless, rude and inappropriate outbursts. The awareness a tool for understanding and manipulating his captive audience. Well, women just like the challenge! Women inherently want to change, fix or save people! Clearly women who love d-bags have daddy issues. Those reasons make me cringe.

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I thought I had to settle and adopted exactly that same type of bullshit guess-some-things-never-change attitude. And after a few years of trying to figure this shit out? Familiarity can often feel like security, and security feels good even if what we thought was secure and safe was only familiar. This shows up in my life a lot, not just in the world of dating.

It is familiar for me to drink away the feelings of discomfort on a first date.

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Don is familiar for me to want to deal with stress by date out of my day and gearing up with a Netflix binge. It is familiar for me to guy on projects in the form of people, both in friendships and in relationships. It is familiar for me to be too empathetic, to take the blame, and to avoid conflict at all costs. It is familiar for me to fill my deep lonelinessfear and self-hatred with all the wrong things.

It is familiar to me to want to help these who are mentally ill, even if that comes at the cost of my own mental well being. Those things are all familiar to me. I grew up with three brothers, who I love dearly. But it is familiar to don to give each other shit, not talk about our feelings, and avoid talking about the hard stuff.

It is familiar to love each other despite our differences and guy how hard it is to get along sometimes. Being strong for other people is something that is familiar to me. None of these familiar things are safe if we define safe as good for me both mentally and physically. Familiar is not always safe. When I date the wrong guys, I get to be right about a lot of things. I get to be right about never being able to find an equal partner. I get to be right about my belief that dating feels like rummaging through a dumpster looking for the date broken thing.

But bigger than that, that little insecure part of me receives affirmation.

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So, better buckle up and get used to it. As I continue to do that by making choices that are right for me and creating boundaries that keep me safe from just doing what feels familiar, the tiny girl in me that believes that this type of love is what I deserve gets smaller and smaller. I think the same reason I have trouble accepting love from nice men is for very similar reasons. When something feels bad, I try to stop questioning it and trust it.

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They have the opportunity to show me what they want, and when they show me who they truly are- I fucking take that shit at face value. Psychopaths, serial killers, probably even the current President of the United States. That alone is teaching me how to love myself, and be there for myself when I need it most.

Recently, I realized a guy I went on a 2nd date with was actually a major d-bag. And immediately I liked him more.

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I recognized the fact that he and I would never actually be a good match in the world of dating, no matter what the learned and familiar instincts were telling me. I listened to the rational part of me that knew on the deepest level that he was someone to run from.

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